Easter, My Mission, Anniversaries and The Ps!
Are you a perfectionist? People Pleaser? Over Producer? Check out the pod this week..
Well Happy Easter! What a brilliant time of year Easter is. I love the gorgeous crisp mornings and sunny days and that Autumn feels. It’s just my favourite time of the year. The moon was big and beautiful in the sky last night and the prospect of all that Easter chocolate and hot cross buns just fills me with joy.
We are having a very quiet easter this year and just heading out the back camping which I’m feeling very excited about.
It was also our 15 year wedding anniversary yesterday. I love doing something nice for our anniversary and I’d actually booked us in to Gimlet in Melbourne for lunch, but Easter Hat Parades and Cross Country Running took precedence. Also our financial situation is not really in the state where we can be zipping off to Melbourne for lunch. Damn it. So we just had a lovely dinner at home and we’re off to the local Ivy Joyce in town for a drink tonight to celebrate.
I’m so grateful every day for the relationship I have with Tim.
The relationship you have with your partner is just so incredibly important and just impacts your life so much in every way and I am just so thankful that Tim and I have such a good partnership. That we still like each other, respect each other and that we communicate and work together as a team so well.
My Mission…
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking since last week when I wrote about the Farmer Wellbeing survey.. I’ve really been thinking about the focus of my podcast, the people I want to work with, my courses, my mission, etc etc (I mean I think about this ALL the time anyway, but even more this week) and I it’s always been in me to really work more on spreading this message that I feel so strongly about which is that we need to take responsibility and accountability for our mental health more as individuals and as communities.
We need to normalise taking care of ourselves, meditating, exercise, doing less, taking off the masks and needing to prove ourselves constantly, letting go of old school norms, doing the deep work to understand ourselves more, learning the skills to cope with what ever disaster, trauma, life experience gets thrown our way, dealing with succession planning, relationships, communication and not just leaving it up to chance.
So that we don’t end up depressed, so that we don’t need to rely so heavily on the services. We can all do so much if we know how. So… I guess it’s just really stepping in to more of the advocacy work as well and sharing the message more. Really focussing on my purpose of ending rural suicide. I think it’s what I’ve wanted to talk about for ages but I just have held back or something.
So anyway, I’m setting myself a mission of getting 1000 farmers (and by that I mean men and women, I might say “farming partnerships” or not sure yet..) to meditate by 2025. I just want to raise awareness, get people thinking, have a way of communicating the importance of this work and use it as way of getting people thinking and then teach them how to make change. I just feel so passionately about making a contribution in this way and getting people to see there is so much they can do!
On the Podcast
This week Meg came back on to chat about the Ps! the Ps are producing, performing, pretending, producing and pleasing. You know all those fun ways that we keep ourselves stuck. Meg uses this P playbook as she calls it to help people see where they might be stuck, holding themselves back, unable to be their authentic selves, putting on the masks in order to protect themselves or stay small.
A clue is that when ever you are using the word “should” we’re often in the Ps!
Recommendations
LOVE this new podcast concept from Claire Stevens and I cried quite a bit at the end of this first episode. This just relates so much to all the work I do and think about. When Dad died I had no idea what so ever that he was unhappy and depressed. Very few people knew.
And that’s at the extreme end. So many of us are going through life with the mask on but underneath we’re not really all that happy. And I would also go deeper than just “happy”. I mean I get why Claire used the word “happy” but I think it’s more than just happy. Happy is a fleeting state or emotion, it’s really about feeling full-filled, content, grounded, at peace, with a sense of knowing that everything is going to be OK. Functioning well, feeling good, thriving. Being able to just BE.
So - are you really happy? Are you really thriving? Or are you in the Ps? With the mask on and just barely hanging in there?
Listen HERE
Sarah Wilson - again - I am just loving her work!
I must admit I haven’t finished this yet but I am loving this episode so far.. This research of Martin’s is sooooo interesting. I think I always think because suicide rates are higher in men then they are more unhappy but this research suggests otherwise.. and they discuss what the “happy” women are doing. So interesting!!!